Updates, Updates

#1 Lo and I are now married, not much has changed.  I had a feeling life would be similar to our previous non-married committed  life.  I have found out though that Lo is more fixated on the title than I am, in regards to what it means to his family and people's perceptions, which makes me feel a little guilty for not wanting to be married sooner.
#2 The process of diagnosing my mom with cancer happened this past week 5 years ago, which also coincidentally is when my wonderful Lo and I started dating.  I don't think I could ever praise Lo and my Mom enough for all of the love they have brought to my life and those they know.
#3 I thought I was pregnant a few weeks ago, could have been a honeymoon baby, after five years that would have been funny :) But alas I'm not, but it made Lo and I realize that we are closer to wanting children then previously known..
#4 Our wonderful cat Pumpkin, who I wrote about last blog, disappeared again, it's been weeks now, and everyday I miss her.  It truly doesn't feel like home without her and she is no where to be found.
#5 House Robbery is not something I want to experience ever again. Nor is a landlord that makes everything more difficult than it has to be.  But the silver lining was seen later, in knowing that the landlord cared and wanted to make our home safer.
#6 I enjoy nature and had a fantastic time on our Cancun adventure honeymoon, Dude Ranch Family Vacation and growing our garden- the little things make life worth it.
#7 A decision on where we are going to live is pending, but it may be closer to the picture directly below :)

A few favorites- sadly I've been a bum and have yet to get all of our wedding photos from my sweet sister and friends 

Love for my Pumpkin

I have always been an animal lover and overtime have gained more appreciation for animals and how they provide comfort and happiness in our lives.  So when my cat, Pumpkin went missing I was distraught.  I cried, We worried, We searched, I posted lost ads, I called vet offices, We looked at the animal shelter (which also made me cry to know I couldn't be a caretaker to all of the sweet animals)  After five days of unknown and worry, Logan and I were in the backyard calling her name late one night and we heard a meow and knew it was her.  We listened closely and realized it was coming from a shed in the backyard.  After frantically unlocking the door and moving items, we found her crouched in a corner.  Our kitty hadn't left us but instead was merely 50 feet away from our house, trapped.  She was frightened and hungry but is alive.  I keep going through different outcomes in my mind, which is causing me guilt. I feel the outcome could not have been better and I am so grateful to have my pumpernickel in my life along with a man that cares as much as I do about animals.

Oh and random moment, I saw Donny Osmond yesterday and I am 

99.9% positive he's had some work done, his skin was stretched unnaturally taut.

Wedding

I have been engaged to my wonderful Lo for about 2 years and 8 months, and we have been 'together/dating' since the end of July 2006 so 4.5 years roughly.  People often ask why we are not married yet and truth be told there are a number of reasons including- timing with my mom's health and the birth of two adorable babies that would have made it nearly impossible for their parents to attend the wedding.
Then I think to myself, those are specific, truthful reasons for the long engagement but I also know that my own anxiety of planning a wedding plays a large role and the fact that I like not conforming to society and more notably 'Utahs' perception of who and what one needs to do and in what order.  Logan and I are committed to each other and love one another.  So why would/do I allow myself to be influenced by society and it's perceptions of what is acceptable.  Family members and friends close to us understand the decision we have made and accept us with love.  However, it seems more difficult to be honest with other family and friends.  There is still a sense of keeping up pretense for pretense sake which makes it tough for me to feel at peace with relationships when I know that there is a judgement just for living our lives in a way that works for us.  All these thoughts over the last 3 years lead to the fact that we have indeed chosen a wedding date of June 10th, 2011 in a beautiful outdoor park in Northern Utah.  I'm excited and am currently enjoying the planning process and even trying on dresses this past weekend :)
However, I can't help but think am I caving into society's influence and ideas of what is appropriate?  This past weekend, a family member, while telling many members of my family about the wedding location and etc., asked repeatedly so is the ceremony also at this park?   I know the underlying questions was about being stunned that a temple wedding had not been chosen.  I was thinking to myself have I really been misleading about our lifestyle and choices to lead someone to believe that a temple marriage was my/our goal or personal choice?  Of course, I realize I haven't been misleading and in turn I shouldn't allow people's perceptions of what they consider appropriate to be the only choice for anyone in this vast world.  My life choices or lack thereof in some people's opinions shouldn't be a factor in making me feel less than what I know I am striving to be in my own life and my life with Logan.

hello, hello.. oh there you are, now where's my flight?

Haha- I am sitting in front of my computer making myself laugh at the silliest things today, because I am quite delirious.  If no one has heard- the travel industry has gone crazy due to Northeast Weather- I'm talking 20 inches of snow and high gusts of winds on Sunday 12/26 and Monday 12/27... so little me that wants to enjoy Christmas with my family decides to go to St. George with Lo and have a marvelous time- I just LOVE my family- they always bring me back to reality and keep me smiling. I get back 12/26, Sunday night and wow there are cancellations for Jetblue! and I mean crazy cancellations, like 40,000 displaced customers on our airline alone, so I decided to go to bed and worry about it the next day.  Monday, our wait time rarely dropped below 40 minutes with 1000+ calls waiting to be answered and today we received an e-mail that in total we cancelled reservations for 123,000+ travelers, and I think I personally have spoken to what feels like half of them.. I feel like the walking dead!  Oh and I just read there were 10,000+ bags stranded.  Hopefully, the call volumes drop and fingers crossed no more cancellations or delays for both customer service and airport crewmembers. I am astonished to realize how many people/vacations/family get-togethers/doctor appts were displaced due to snow and wind.  I for one am grateful I work in my basement and don't have to drive in that mess.  I'm also glad that my overtime hours are helping me pay off my credit card!
I wrote this weeks ago now- meaning to add pictures of the crazy weather but forgot about it until I wanted to 'blog' about something else and thought why not post this also.
It feels like life has been on repeat with my job and no end in site.  There have been FOUR additional irregular operations since Dec 26th including the current one happening in New York and Boston with 150 plus flight cancellations and more overtime!  As a sidenote JB lost 30 million dollars in revenue with just the December IROP- joy for profit sharing :(  I had empathy and even sympathy with and for the Christmas IROP travelers but now people seem to be just as tired of the weather and think we enjoy not getting them to their destinations.  I don't know how many times I've had to say unfortunately nature is just not cooperating with the east coast this month and yes it is snowing in New York have you looked outside and no we are not cancelling flights becuase of last weeks weather- it's another storm- enjoy :) And  now today after a few days of sunny but cold weather it snowed here in Utah. When will this winter ever end and am I willing to continue living in a place that has such crappy weather for 6 months out of the year??  However, it could be worse- New Hampshire was -35 degrees a few days ago!

excess of information?

How should one react in realizing that dreams and goals that were once vivid, present and free-flowing are no longer thought of, realized or attainable?

How can a person you love so much that brings a smile to your face everytime they laugh, talk or tell you they love you, not stay with you in quiet reflecting moments?

How do you put into words feeling devoid of all emotion, yet full of excitement for life and the possiblities when looked at from a different view?

I am confused, lost-if I'm being truthful- about what life should encompass. I am struggling to break a pattern of self-loathing and self-pity which are both invasive to every thought about the lives and possible deaths of myself and those around me.

It is not an enviable position to be in and I often try to seperate myself from realizing that in fact it is only myself creating the thoughts and state that I fear.

I need to start setting goals and believing they can be achieved.. Maybe I'll find some of the anwers I'm seeking on the beach in the Dominican Republic- yes I'm running away if only for a few days...

Recap of my recent past

I had a great Christmas Break- so much fun!
We went to St. George to see family and it was fabulous! After I hang out with my family I realize that I am very different but grateful for the differences and good laughs and wonderful times I get to spend with everyone even though it is to limited at times

I especially enjoy watching Logan as I see him laugh and joke and fit in so well with my family

I also had a wonderful month of January

A trip to Disneyland with Mom, Logan & Aunt Lisa

and then a Mexican Riveria Cruise with Julie, Kealy, Nesha and
many more of the Sellers family :) it was nice to see their family dynamics and interactions. It made me miss my family I had left in California & Utah

Both trips were much needed and not suprisingly I was sad and I am still sad the vacations are over almost two months later. I loved the sun and the beaches- It revived my spirit and I feel like I have been longing for the sun more than ever lately. Thankfully spring is right around the corner- I saw little crocus flowers the other day- it reminds of growing up in Kaysville and brought great memories back.

We are planning many fun adventures this summer but in the interim we have to deal with what I mentioned on my last posting in December. My mom is going to have her first Therasphere/radiation treatment on March 24. It's been almost four years since her diagnosis. The time has literally disappeared it seems- in that time she has triumphed over many obstacles including two open heart surgeries, a new marriage :) and continuing to work full time

SHE IS AMAZING!

The strength that she has and continues to show me and those around her on a constant basis is astounding. I find myself wondering if I would have such a drive if faced with similar challenges.

That being said, I am going to put my faith and trust into this new treatment and team of doctors and hope for nothing but the best while being by her side and enjoying what life has given me

Oh Today it can come and go already please

So the Holiday weekend was nice- I didn't spend as much time with family as I would have liked due to homework and it went by very quickly as always.

Today though has brought me back to a reality I dislike and makes me realize I need to spend more time with my family and not feel regret about not having those special moments. Why might I have regret?

Two words: Chemotherapy and Radiation

I found out today those two horrible words are going to enter my mom's life and therefore my family's in the next few months (insurance willing- stupid insurance) She has been through so much and I just can't seem to be ok with accepting this fact. I know we were given a timeline 3 1/2 years ago and now it's half way over. I realize that things were promised to get better without accepting some of these measures or even get better with them. It's just happening so quickly, time as flown by.

I am having such a hard time putting on a smile- I know my Uncle has survived, but my grandpa was taken by this stupid, stupid disease. I just don't know where to go from here. Of course I'm going to do everything I need to, to help, but it never feels like enough.

I feel restricted and lost all at once. I don't know what I am supposed to do beyond be available for her. Do I learn everything I can about what's happening, do I just sit and cry?, or do I keep living this life that seems moment to moment without any real moments in between. I guess what I feel after the crying is numb. Numb to those around me, numb to myself, numb to my other commitments, numb to emotions, numb to everyday happenings.

But even as I type this I know that I will pick myself up and be there in the moments she needs me and Lo needs me, because I know it is true and honest and I can't do anything else.

I don't mean to make this blog about these sad moments in my life as I have so many things I love and am grateful for- it's an outlet for some of my emotions.