Wedding

I have been engaged to my wonderful Lo for about 2 years and 8 months, and we have been 'together/dating' since the end of July 2006 so 4.5 years roughly.  People often ask why we are not married yet and truth be told there are a number of reasons including- timing with my mom's health and the birth of two adorable babies that would have made it nearly impossible for their parents to attend the wedding.
Then I think to myself, those are specific, truthful reasons for the long engagement but I also know that my own anxiety of planning a wedding plays a large role and the fact that I like not conforming to society and more notably 'Utahs' perception of who and what one needs to do and in what order.  Logan and I are committed to each other and love one another.  So why would/do I allow myself to be influenced by society and it's perceptions of what is acceptable.  Family members and friends close to us understand the decision we have made and accept us with love.  However, it seems more difficult to be honest with other family and friends.  There is still a sense of keeping up pretense for pretense sake which makes it tough for me to feel at peace with relationships when I know that there is a judgement just for living our lives in a way that works for us.  All these thoughts over the last 3 years lead to the fact that we have indeed chosen a wedding date of June 10th, 2011 in a beautiful outdoor park in Northern Utah.  I'm excited and am currently enjoying the planning process and even trying on dresses this past weekend :)
However, I can't help but think am I caving into society's influence and ideas of what is appropriate?  This past weekend, a family member, while telling many members of my family about the wedding location and etc., asked repeatedly so is the ceremony also at this park?   I know the underlying questions was about being stunned that a temple wedding had not been chosen.  I was thinking to myself have I really been misleading about our lifestyle and choices to lead someone to believe that a temple marriage was my/our goal or personal choice?  Of course, I realize I haven't been misleading and in turn I shouldn't allow people's perceptions of what they consider appropriate to be the only choice for anyone in this vast world.  My life choices or lack thereof in some people's opinions shouldn't be a factor in making me feel less than what I know I am striving to be in my own life and my life with Logan.